Am I experiencing domestic abuse?
You answered ‘No‘ to all the questions (see below). That does not mean you are not experiencing or at risk of domestic abuse. If you are, you are not alone. We know that talking to someone about your experience can be very difficult and what you do now is completely up to you. When you feel ready to reach out there are professionals available 24hrs a day, 7 days a week who will listen to and support you whatever you decide to do. If you feel that you or your children are in immediate danger you should call the Police on 999. Can’t talk? Press 55 when the operator answers.
#1. Does your partner ever make you feel afraid?
#2. Have you changed something about yourself because you were concerned about what your partner might say or do?
#3. Do you often worry about talking to your partner about something that’s bothering you?
#4. Do you often feel bad about yourself as a result of something your partner said?
#5. Does your partner refuse to talk to you for long periods of time?
#6. Does your partner make it difficult for you to see friends/family?
#7. Does your partner control your income or finances?
#8. Are you ever made to feel that your partner will take the children off you?
#9. Does your partner want to know where you are/what you’re doing all the time?
#10. Does your partner check your texts, phone calls or social media?
#11. Has your partner ever stopped you getting a job or education?
#12. Has your partner ever forced you to have sex or to participate in any sexual activity that you didn’t feel comfortable with?
#13. Has your partner ever threatened you or your children?
#14. Does your partner often fly into a rage over something minor?
#15. Has your partner ever destroyed your possessions deliberately?
#16. Has your partner ever threatened to hurt themselves if you were to leave?
#17. Does your partner blame alcohol, drug use or mental health for their behaviour?
#18. Does your partner control your alcohol or other substance use? Do they withhold or force you to take something you don’t want to?
You answered ‘No‘ to all the questions (see below).
That does not mean you are not experiencing or at risk of domestic abuse.
If you are, you are not alone. We know that talking to someone about your experience can be very difficult and what you do now is completely up to you. When you feel ready to reach out there are professionals available 24hrs a day, 7 days a week who will listen to and support you whatever you decide to do.
If you feel that you or your children are in immediate danger you should call the Police on 999. Can’t talk? Press 55 when the operator answers.
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Arguments happen in every relationship. Partners and family members all have disagreements, and sometimes do or say things they later regret. An indicator of domestic violence or an abusive relationship is when a pattern is evident or starts to develop.
The United Nations define domestic abuse, also called “domestic violence” or “intimate partner violence”, as:
A pattern of behaviour in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviours that frighten, intimidate, terrorise, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure, or wound someone.
Abuse can include so-called ‘honour’-based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage.
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone of any race, religion, age, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, or gender.
Taking this short quiz may help you to identify whether you are experiencing or at risk of domestic abuse or violence.
Taking this short quiz may help you to identify whether you are experiencing or at risk of honour abuse, forced marriage, female genital mutilation (FGM) or other form of abuse.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger call 999
Call 999 from a mobile:
If you don’t speak or answer questions, press 55 when prompted and your call will be transferred to the police. Pressing 55 only works on mobiles and doesn’t allow the police to track your location. If you don’t press 55 your call will be ended.
Call 999 from a landline:
If you don’t speak or answer questions and the operator can only hear background noise, they’ll transfer your call to the police. If you replace the handset, the landline may remain connected for 45 seconds in case you pick it up again. Calling 999 from a landline automatically gives the police information about your location.
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onEvidence do not collect any identifying data, nor save any of the answers you submit in this quiz. Our quizzes are intended to be educational and may help increase your awareness of particular forms of domestic abuse. They should not be understood as providing any type of diagnosis or healthcare recommendation. In the view of this, self-administered domestic abuse screening tests may help to enhance self-awareness of one’s own experiences, but cannot give any informed recommendation about what should be done about those experiences. What any individual chooses to do with the results of any given test, is a matter for the individual.