Am I experiencing honour abuse?
You answered No to all the questions (see below). That does not mean you are not experiencing honour abuse, forced marriage, FGM or other form of abuse.
What you do now is completely up to you. If you are concerned that you might be experiencing abuse and would like to talk to someone, there are professionals available 24hrs a day, 7 days a week who will listen to and support you whatever you decide to do.
If you feel that you or your children are in immediate danger you should call the Police on 999. Can’t talk? Press 55 when the operator answers.
#1. Are you ever afraid of your partner, parents or any other family member?
#2. Have you ever changed the way you look or behave because you are afraid of what your partner/family might say or do?
#3. Has your partner/family told you that your behaviour brings shame on the family?
#4. Has your partner/family ever stopped you from seeing your friends?
#5. Has your partner/family stopped you from getting a job or finishing your education?
#6. Does your partner/family check your phone calls, texts or social media?
#7. Has your partner, family or member of your community ever followed you when you go out?
#8. Are you worried that if you disclose your sexuality to family/community you may be harmed?
#9. Are you worried that if you disclose your sexuality your family may disown you?
#10. Do your parents/family pressure you or expect you to marry someone they have chosen?
#11. Are you about to marry someone you really don’t want to for whatever reason?
#12. Are you worried about a planned family holiday?
#13. Are you under 21 and has your mother experienced female genital mutilation (FGM)?
#14. Has your partner/family ever stopped you from seeking medical help/advice?
#15. Has your partner/family ever forced you to do something that you really did not want to do?
#16. Has your partner ever hurt or threatened you or your children?
#17. Has your partner ever threatened to take your children away if you leave?
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In every relationship there are expected behaviours that help to ensure harmony. And in every relationship, there are times when one or more party oversteps a boundary. Partners, family members and friends all behave badly towards each other occasionally. All have disagreements, and sometimes do or say things they later regret.
An indicator of an abusive relationship is when something happens to make you feel worried about your safety, or when a pattern is evident or starts to develop.
The Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) defines honour-based abuse (HBA) and honour-based violence (HBV) as “an incident or crime involving violence, threats of violence, intimidation, coercion or abuse (including psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional abuse) which has or may have been committed to protect or defend the honour of an individual, family and/or community for alleged or perceived breaches of the family and/or community’s code of behaviour.”
Honour-based crimes could include murder, known as ‘honour killing’, attempted murder, manslaughter, forced abortion, encouraging or assisting suicide, forced marriage, female genital mutilation (FGM), and conspiracy to commit a variety of other crimes.
Taking this short quiz may help you to identify whether you are experiencing or at risk of honour abuse, forced marriage, female genital mutilation (FGM) or other form of abuse.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger call 999
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